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    Girl problems 2

    Supsup MPGH, been a while.

    Need more advice from you rats because I don't fux with no teling my friends my feelings and asking them for advice, so I'll ask MPGH. So theres this girl, I've known her for a while and we've recently become more than friends, I know she doesn't want be bf/gf because we've talked about it. Shes 'too scared of losing me' and 'she might do something stupid and to make me leave her', which are her reasons for not wanting to go out with me. So the problem is, we're friends with benefits, but I also want a relationship.

    Do I be the nice guy and say that I'm not that type of person and I want a relationship or JUST to be friends

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    Do I continue on having sex and doing things with her and maybe not even have a relationship with her in the future

    I might sound like a total gayfag for even contemplating choosing just sex over a meaningful relationship, but fuck that. I can't do shit with other girls overwise she crys about it (Had sex with someone else and she tried to kill herself by ODing on some pills because she was drunk and thought it would help to make the pain go away) and we do things like boyfriend and girlfriend.

    pls halp.

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    Just sounds like you two are some immature kids. She has boundary issues and you are letting the aspect of sex control how you really feel about this person. I bet you that once you remove sex from the equation you're going to be left wondering what is left to like about her when she's being completely insane.

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    Get CF minion.
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    Seems to me like she really feels deeply for you, but (as she says) is afraid to officially date you. If you feel strongly for this girl you should go for an actual relationship. Your current situation will only torture the two of you, as you feel tied to each other (You can not see other girls without her getting upset, and I'd bet she isn't doing anything with any other guys). You'll need to stress to her that if your relationship is not going to progress to being boyfriend and girlfriend then it should not continue the way it has been. If you two are not going to date, you need to let each other go and see other people.

    I hope this helps, and I wish you good luck. A friend of mine has a similar situation that he is trying to deal with right now.



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    Wow she is nuts...
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    Haze, whatever the fuck you do stop the friends with benefits thing right now.

    The exact same situation happened with my best mate a couple of months ago. They were friends with benefits, and he really wanted to date her, but she said she was afraid of losing him and that she had commitment issues. She ended up leading him on and fucking him over bigtime.

    My advice: don't let her do that. Either be the nice guy and ask her out, or say you want whatever you two have to stop.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Assalamu alaikum View Post
    what? maybe stop talk with riddles and with words i am not even know.

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    Interesting. Looks like I need to have a serious talk with her, I hate being serious.. sigh, guess I'll have to stop the whole friends with benefits situation.
    Last edited by Haze; 12-23-2011 at 06:47 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Assalamu alaikum View Post
    what? maybe stop talk with riddles and with words i am not even know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Haze View Post


    Interesting. Looks like I need to have a serious talk with her, I hate being serious.. sigh, guess I'll have to stop the whole friends with benefits situation.
    FUCK RELATIONSHIPS, thats my opinion :L friends with benifits are always good because nobody can get hurt like you would in a relationship

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    just show her this



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    She's probably using you for the sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iverson954360 View Post
    Just sounds like you two are some immature kids. She has boundary issues and you are letting the aspect of sex control how you really feel about this person. I bet you that once you remove sex from the equation you're going to be left wondering what is left to like about her when she's being completely insane.
    ^ this big time
    @Haze you should keep this one in your mind all the time when your dealing with your girl problems...
    this one right here is the consensus of pretty much any solution ive seen about these type of situations..

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    Haze, you got a girl problem every month with a different girl.

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    you have been friendzoned

    you know what? i have the exact same problem as you atm
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