Mind, i kinda know how you feel, we didnt have a military death, but a 9/11 death.
My aunt died in 9/11, she was in the second building to get hit, and she was on the 97th floor.
EDIT: Idk if it matters, but some ppl dont believe me. If you want, look it up. Her name is Lilian de la Cruz
I'm sorry to hear this, try to remember the good times you had. We will all die and when we do, at least when i do, I want to know i left an impact on society. We'll all be rotting corpses feeding the earth, but we can be remembered corpses.
"We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter." ~ Denis Diderot