Call of Duty: MW2 XP Lobby?

I know, I'm new, I'm asking for something, I'm leeching, I don't feel good about that. My last account got banned because I had an argument with a mod, and so yeah.

I was playing last night with my husband and I forgot that on MW2, you don't unlock all in private matches by default, so we played all day unlocking stuff and then... well, this asshole deranked me because I wouldn't snipe in a public match. I could really, really use a lobby, I've been hunting one down but just... I really can't find one. I'd be thankful as hell, I can't pay but I'd be willing to do just about anything to this done. I've had a rough week and just wanting to relax and play MW2 with my husband shouldn't be this much of a drama.

Please, and thank you, even though most of you will tell me to fuck off *shrugs*.