Family Problems

[thelatter]

Why is my dad acting like it's my fault that he is so miserable.

He is acting like a victim and is making me feel really bad
When I wanted to start following my own passion he got depressed.
Making me feel like its my fault. I think he is just doing it to control me
So I do what he tells me so he can be happy.
But I'm 100% he will never be happy with me whatever I do what he wants or not.

That's a very clever thing my dad has figured out but it's so wrong.


I'm looking for your Advice and Opinion.

[Rob]

Tell him to fuck off and go out on your own.
If you're not old enough you need to fix some things

[kulka12]

Blame has to be put on someone, it's easier to put in on someone else but yourslef. sorry, but he sounds like an asshole

[Harry]

He's guilt tripping you, I used to have it quite a lot from my parents so I would end up doing what they wanted to do. I stopped it by just saying no every time they asked me, it worked. (seems pretty pathetic ik, but I was easily manipulated by peer pressure and other factors when i was younger.)
You'll just have to tell your dad that it's your life, and you want to do what you think is best for you. If he doesn't like it then sadly he'll just have to accept that you want to do what you want to do. If you're the right age, nobody can stop you from achieving what you want.
Depending on your age, you might even have to split from your family. If you're old enough then just start to distance yourself, if you aren't then you'll just have to deal with it until you can distance yourself.

Just ignore any of these posts that don't really include much help, they usually come from children that are trying to boost their post counts by spouting random shit.

[Allura]

Well you do have to be your own person. But you should ask your dad why he doesn't want you to do what your passion is. So you can understand he's perspective

[Ticherhaz]

Why is my dad acting like it's my fault that he is so miserable.

He is acting like a victim and is making me feel really bad
When I wanted to start following my own passion he got depressed.
Making me feel like its my fault. I think he is just doing it to control me
So I do what he tells me so he can be happy.
But I'm 100% he will never be happy with me whatever I do what he wants or not.

That's a very clever thing my dad has figured out but it's so wrong.


I'm looking for your Advice and Opinion.

feel bad man..
btw how old are you ? i need to know yourself before i assume others opinion

[WeakHands]

Maybe he has a good reason, try to talk with him.


Communication is the best thing to solve problems bro.


Good luck

[Vice]

Need to know the age

[Confin3d]

People will often put you down or try to get you to be as miserable as they are so they can feel better about how lowly their own existence is. It's your life do as you please, just because he's family doesn't mean you have to put up with emotionally abusive behavior.

[MixMaMY]

How old are you? Need to know that first.

[Goblin]

Pops died before I "graduated" high school, and I have my own misgivings about the things I did and the way I acted. I have more freedom now to really do what I want and explore my options (something I couldn't have done if he was still here), but I would've done and sacrificed anything and everything to have him still here.

For you though, I feel like you're still young, still living at your mom's crib, still having your shit paid for you and asking your parents to buy you this and that. Your pops is worried for a reason, and you're his spawn, his fucking cream cheese turned into a live human being a.k.a. you. It's hard to think that what he does is for your best, but 9 times out of 10 it is.

And if you're dead-set on your passion, you prove it. If you're not convincing enough, it may not be right for you after all.

[Neglect]

Toxicity will ruin your life. Please see a psychiatrist if you havent and try to makes things right. If all else fails, just move out?

[Luverdark]

Feel free to come talk to me if you're feeling rough. I've been helping out people in the past and i'm always open.

[A.alfa]

Try to understand and/or talk why he is acting like that. Probably he is having a rough time and he needs attention too.

[Hibana]

He is blaming you because he is insecure and cannot accept that it was his fault. He's just using you as a scapegoat to let out his emotions that his conscience is building up. It's quite common in people to not take responsibility for their actions and blaming others, especially kids because they are very easy to manipulate.

To solve this, you have to either man the fuck up and tell your dad that what he's doing is wrong, and to go find help. If he continues, then you might have to use some kind of force, physically or verbally, to get your dad's head straight. I'm not telling you to fight your dad, but if it keeps on building and building, it can lead to further abuse and more dangerous psychological problems with your dad.

Just my two cents.