I have body dysmorphia will never be big enough, I also have abs but still feel like im fat
So I'm some 16 years old and:
TL;DR I'm pathetically useless at everything compared to everyone, live in the shadow of my dad, and can't find a way or a will out of my situation. So I don't think about it.
Last edited by Rudol Von Stroheim; 08-10-2017 at 12:00 AM. Reason: TL;DR included, text changed due to review.
I have body dysmorphia will never be big enough, I also have abs but still feel like im fat
I actually took the time to read everything you wrote and a few things:
1) The whole spend change before cash thing is stupid. You shouldn't feel stupid for not doing that. I never spend change and only spend cash cause I feel like a poor pleb when I use change. I just save up all my change and trade it to a bank for bills. Also, I tend to use my debit card for most transactions. I don't understand why it really matters. Maybe you're anxious of disappointing your dad. I've disappointed my parents multiple times now but I've come further than they would have ever expected.
2) Even if you think you haven't done shit, you can still get far. In high school, I did no extra curriculars and then I somehow got myself a government job through some employment for teens kinda program. Year after that, I got a job at some prestigious financial services company through my high school and even that job took no skill whatsoever. I just sat in an office alphabetizing peoples' files by name while watching Youtube, playing hearthstone, and listening to music. An elementary student can do that. Right now I'm unemployed and just finding random ways to make money during the summer (which is somewhat successful).
3) I'm a short scrawny Asian kid. But that's never really been a problem for me. I don't really care. I got connections. People respect me. I got my close ride or die homies. All I really need honestly. Just find your spot within your crew of friends. I'm sure you have some at least. Even the biggest losers from school had a few friends. Care not what others have/do but rather make the best of what you got.
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Bernard (08-10-2017)
It might sound corny, but you should just try to be happy with yourself and try to improve what you think are your weak spots but never beat yourself to the point of being depressed.
Watch these two videos to the fullest and see if you can take anything from it.
Kate (08-12-2017)
Bernard (08-10-2017)
Seems like you need to find a hobby of some sort bro. Why don't you join the gym or a boxing gym? That's usually where people start and it will open the door to many other things for you. Gym memberships aren't that pricy nowadays anyways.
apart from the point that you might need some professional help in regards of the last point you made in the last spoiler
i would say start slow and try to do sports like 1 time a week so you get kinda used to it and start adding more exercises the more you do and the more fun it makes
for the job just look around in some craigslist ads, if you really want a job working at mcdonalds or so is more than easy and all youll be doing there will be explained (not like they throw you in and you just gotta make cheeseburgers without anyone helping you)
and youre only 16yet, so dont expect to have a lot of experience job wise, no matter what you start with theyll be very helpful when you start a new job
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Nicely put together @Bernard.
Would like to also mention about the unsocial;
There is nothing wrong with being unsocial man, in today's generations a lot of people alike you have this problem, even the generation before you has it, it's widely known and people shouldn't be put down cos of that, I in the other hand, I has 3 years of experience at work, and I've seen my fair share of people coming to work not knowing what they should talk with people around them, mostly the younger kids, all they do is sit in the internet on their phones, which is silly cos it makes socially not weird but troublesome
Last edited by PhantomSinister; 08-11-2017 at 02:54 PM.
I think a good thing to do is to keep a Journal. Just write any accomplishments you had that day, how you felt that day and plans you have for tomorrow. Keep track of what you are doing each day by writing it down so you aren't overwhelmed with all these problems and things you want to do. Writing it down will help you tackle each problem by the head.
A good quote to remember is "We suffer more often in imagination than in reality"
Kate (08-12-2017)
We all know that our parents most often (If not always) think that the decision made by them without discussing with you about it is the right one, but we all know that it really isn't the truth, sure, you can't discuss some matters with the child of your own cos they wouldn't be able to understand or think of a reason why their parents did so, a friend of mine was put into a school where most disabled people are going to, people with syndromes, people who are in wheelchair or whatever other symptoms they have in regards to being disabled, but as she got older, she wanted to be on a different school to study different things cos of the school she originally was weren't able to help her cos of "It would be hard to teach other kids" -- After all, people who are around the age of 1-7 cannot really make their own decisions, but they should still have a rightful choice for what school/job is the best for them.
Also, like I said, there is nothing wrong with being socially awkward or unsocial, but most of these problems lay under the rug of yours because you don't have a job where you can socialize with people around you, people who most often need help to find something, so you help them and show them a way to certain item, sitting at the phone while on launch time doesn't make your unsocial go away, it makes it worse, phone doesn't guarantee socializes, it makes things worse, if you want to get rid of the unsocial, then go and talk with random people around the school or something.
When it comes to not having skills; you can't really acquire skills by "complaining" about in a forum where "most" of the guys don't really have the skills like a normal workaholic does, social engineering is something everyone can do even without skills, same with refunds, you come up with some accurate excuse or bullshit you made up to tell them that the pencil or the item you ordered got lost, but you actually have the item, so people in here don't really have skills, some may do have them by coding game cheats (I would instead help anti-cheats become better than make the game worse - but that is my opinion) -- therefore, I wish the greatest luck with these "issues" you have.
I know this kind of "feeling" or situation.
You don't have to follow rules made by family, government or people around you. The human beeing is so amazing, you can everytime make a decision even when you absolute against it. So look at your options and do what is the most acceptable for your mind/soul/heart/anything you believing in.
Don't get it wrong, I love life even when I'm totally broken sometimes. When my friends (not really much friends but really good friends) not around I really like to be alone rather than a couple of "social people" sorrounds me.