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    Loving youself

    It's not a relationship when there's no arguments involved (Not saying every relationship but most of them). I'm emotionally unstable right now, things have been getting worst for me. My girlfriend shut me off completely by pointing out what's wrong with me, no self worth and pathetic. Every convo I started are always based on her interest. I admit I was being too clingy and emotional dependent on her. I was pressuring her too much and didn't give her personal space. She didn't break up with me yet but I can feel it's on the verge of happening anytime soon. She told me to love myself. How do you find love in yourself? How do you find who you are and become yourself?
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    Relationships can work without arguments; and she is not going to break up with you unless you are actually going to change yourself, give her the deserved personal space and stop pressuring her, relationships do not work however when you are this way, learn from it.

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    It is a vast topic, nobody can tell you how to love yourself without long talks because we are all different. What I can tell you however is my experience, and you can reflect on it by yourself and see which area needs improvement.

    Loving yourself begins with two steps: First) You accept who you are with all your faults. Second) Progress.

    To embrace the first step you will need time and observation skills to see how others live their lives. You need to realize that nobody is perfect and that we all, no exceptions, suffer. The rich, the poor, the single. It is only a matter of how good your act is. Some people however choose to run from it, and some people choose to face it. So ask yourself this; are you ready to face the problem head on? If you are, then you have accepted yourself.
    You see yourself ugly? No problem, most people do. You don't have a talent? No problem, most people don't. That is when the second step comes up; progression, because they both are connected with each other.

    You are ugly? Shower and get a new hair cut. Change your clothes, you may not feel comfortable with what you currently have, so change it up. And after changing it up, remember that beauty on the outside matters not. At your 30's, will your wife care what you look like, or will she care about how you treat her, your success as a person, and how well life is going for your family? That is why you don't taint your personality; you work on it to become a better person. Beauty is temporary, but the soul is eternal.
    You have no talent? Search for a hobby that suits you. People are not born with raw talent in their blood, they work on it, and work until they become good at it.

    Every single thing you go through is an experience, isn't it? And through experience we learn, we change, and we see things we haven't seen before. It could be a deep talk with your friend, or seeing a beggar on the street. Either of those events may "tick" something within your head, and that tick is what we call maturation.
    To progress is to mature. I am not talking about becoming a dignified god that has matured through countless experiences, not at all. Maturation is simply, to me, beating the you from yesterday.
    That you from yesterday is the checkpoint you need to surpass at any given time. Doing your bed in the morning is hard? Do it. Do it and repeat to yourself, "This is my responsibility, this is for my progression". Repeat that in everything you may find hard.
    It will not be easy, for a week or even a month, but over time they will seem like mundane responsibilities. It will become your routine. And how do you know when that happens? You will feel proud of yourself for doing it, and that is the reward of self discipline. You always seek to be the best version of yourself, not seeking approval of others. There is nothing is better in this life than being proud of your progress.

    Of course there are other matters such as emotions and how being emotionally dependent on others is not good on the long run, but once you realize that life does not revolve around you and that your daily life is one of many, you will want to live the life of the few who truly enjoy and appreciate themselves. After all, there is no person who was there with you from the very beginning and will stay with you till the very end except yourself, so cut him some slack and have a deep talk with him, cry with him, consult him, and appreciate him.

    Thus, know what your problems, accept them, and work on them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mayion View Post
    It is a vast topic, nobody can tell you how to love yourself without long talks because we are all different. What I can tell you however is my experience, and you can reflect on it by yourself and see which area needs improvement.

    Loving yourself begins with two steps: First) You accept who you are with all your faults. Second) Progress.

    To embrace the first step you will need time and observation skills to see how others live their lives. You need to realize that nobody is perfect and that we all, no exceptions, suffer. The rich, the poor, the single. It is only a matter of how good your act is. Some people however choose to run from it, and some people choose to face it. So ask yourself this; are you ready to face the problem head on? If you are, then you have accepted yourself.
    You see yourself ugly? No problem, most people do. You don't have a talent? No problem, most people don't. That is when the second step comes up; progression, because they both are connected with each other.

    You are ugly? Shower and get a new hair cut. Change your clothes, you may not feel comfortable with what you currently have, so change it up. And after changing it up, remember that beauty on the outside matters not. At your 30's, will your wife care what you look like, or will she care about how you treat her, your success as a person, and how well life is going for your family? That is why you don't taint your personality; you work on it to become a better person. Beauty is temporary, but the soul is eternal.
    You have no talent? Search for a hobby that suits you. People are not born with raw talent in their blood, they work on it, and work until they become good at it.

    Every single thing you go through is an experience, isn't it? And through experience we learn, we change, and we see things we haven't seen before. It could be a deep talk with your friend, or seeing a beggar on the street. Either of those events may "tick" something within your head, and that tick is what we call maturation.
    To progress is to mature. I am not talking about becoming a dignified god that has matured through countless experiences, not at all. Maturation is simply, to me, beating the you from yesterday.
    That you from yesterday is the checkpoint you need to surpass at any given time. Doing your bed in the morning is hard? Do it. Do it and repeat to yourself, "This is my responsibility, this is for my progression". Repeat that in everything you may find hard.
    It will not be easy, for a week or even a month, but over time they will seem like mundane responsibilities. It will become your routine. And how do you know when that happens? You will feel proud of yourself for doing it, and that is the reward of self discipline. You always seek to be the best version of yourself, not seeking approval of others. There is nothing is better in this life than being proud of your progress.

    Of course there are other matters such as emotions and how being emotionally dependent on others is not good on the long run, but once you realize that life does not revolve around you and that your daily life is one of many, you will want to live the life of the few who truly enjoy and appreciate themselves. After all, there is no person who was there with you from the very beginning and will stay with you till the very end except yourself, so cut him some slack and have a deep talk with him, cry with him, consult him, and appreciate him.

    Thus, know what your problems, accept them, and work on them.
    part of being ugly is you have to accept your ugly then love yourself

    wouldnt know though because im fucking beautiful

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    I'd hate myself too if my signature would be two loli characters doing some dumb shit and my avi some 2d chick crying

    bruh i genuinely cringe when i see people whining about shit like this i'd understand if you were 14 or something but nah bruh

    it's like every time you look in the mirror or think about the past you're always going to notice the negative things over the positive things since they bother you more so just stop thinking about improving yourself and it will come naturally> ,> ,asda i was reading what Maiyon said about getting a haircut and new outfit and i recently did that since i went off the World of Warcraft deep-end and got fucked so i did that

    yeye this gonna be a fucking sölvidocument.word

    I'm super fucking bored and i'm on the verge of getting depressed, i don't have any friends in the city that i moved to so i've been going off the deep-end every other month, yesterday i saw this poster for a board-game club at my collage and i'm checking that out,,>>>>>>>>>> I've lived here for almost more than a year now and i dont know a single person since i'm in a tech education and everyone is an incel watching pewdiepie playing minecraft in class

    Just do whatever the fuck don't compare yourself to other people and compare yourself to you from last week

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dave84311 View Post
    wouldnt know though because im fucking beautiful
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mayion View Post
    You are ugly? Shower and get a new hair cut. Change your clothes, you may not feel comfortable with what you currently have, so change it up.
    This is a response to OP, but Mayion here has a very good point. In my personal opinion, one of the best ways to get a positive self esteem and or add some pride to yourself would be to entirely change your physical appearance until the point in which you're satisfied. Maybe we all can't look like the models off of magazines, but which wardrobe changes, nutrition/gym habits, and basically attaining a better physical and mental image of yourself will indeed stimulate self esteem.

    My freshman year of high-school all the way til my Junior year (almost 4 years ago wow) I was depressed, had negative body image about myself, and I felt like I wasn't wanted by anyone. Well one day, practically out of nowhere, I stopped feeling sorry for myself and thought, "you know what? fuck being miserable with life, I'm about to take this bitch by the balls." Now, I am not by any means saying this as if I am some sort of philosophical genius, but you do have control over a lot of your psyche and your physical condition. With all that being said, I think my main point is that you may not have self esteem, but the beauty in humanity is that we have the ability to change & overcome obstacles. Pretty much anything you dislike about yourself, you can change. Just try to be the best version of yourself, or rather the version of yourself you'd most want to see.

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    I do love myself but, i don't know when did I started loving myself.







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    Agree with some points others have made. I will throw in drive and purpose. It's not a surprise that drive and purpose are commonly seen as attractive features in both men and women.
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    Try to identify the traits in you that you’d see as faults. See if some of these are correlated and then figure out which ones you can work out on your own. These things take time so don’t worry about it bro and take care of yourself

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    Don't fucking love yourself and just drown in depression with me

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    @Matthew your profile picture explains why you won't love yourself lmao
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    Quote Originally Posted by Faggot View Post
    @Matthew your profile picture explains why you won't love yourself lmao
    Damn dude.

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    Anyhow - another advice that I can possibly give is that you cannot be in a healthy relationships; when you are too depended on your magnificent another, they should be able to like help you motivate you to be a better person without you being pushy or needy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Faggot View Post
    @Matthew your profile picture explains why you won't love yourself lmao
    Stop living up to your name, Faggot

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    Quote Originally Posted by Matthew View Post
    Stop living up to your name, Faggot
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