Yeah I noticed some people mention it but mostly this happens when you've already refunded from Apple, and you try to go for another order... Their system is really smart, don't underestimate it, even if you ask you friend to order with their info, and they have any ties back to you or your order (IP addresses, physical addresses, etc.) they'll cancel it. I'd recommend laying off of Apple for a while, and then asking someone else to order, using their own card, name, address, everything.
How much is the order amount? If you’re using a new account with a high order amount the system can flag it as high risk and the order won’t go through. Have you tried contacting apple customer service and ask them why the order isn’t going through? I did a 4.5k order on a new apple account with no purchase history and my order got canceled the next day but then I called them and told them that I authorized the transaction and they let the order through.