I need help, I don't know what to do with this girl

[Callie]

Hi everyone,
I'd like to hear what you think about the situation and what I should do.
Ill give you some back story though,
I met this girl in one of my classes back in last September, im still in the same class as her and we are together for around 4 hours a week.
She's super kind and nice to me and we sit next to each other and stuff and its all great.
She invited me to her house party last October, it was my first party ever and it was super cool and I really enjoyed it.
I was her like #1 on snapchat for I think two months? But then she told me she had a boyfriend.
I didn't try to make any moves in the first place so it was all fine I wasn't too bothered, but I did feel bad for her supposed boyfriend.
Considering I was her #1 most contacted snapchat friend for like two months lol and she literally never spoke about him.

ANYWAYS, whats happening now.
Everythings good still, great friends and we laugh and shit etc as per usual.
However, she is VERY comfortable around me. Like, there has been a few occasions where she's told me to put my hand on hers, but not in a romantic way, but because of the topic like comparing hand sizes since I have massive hands and shit.
I stopped messaging her entirely on snapchat since like december because I didn't wanna cause problems with her boyfriend, but we still occasionally talk on text messges.
But something stuck out for me today.
She was telling me how she went subway for the first time a few weeks ago and I was telling her how I really wanted one and shit and she said we'd go after class, so of course I did. We were talking and just laughing and shit as per and she was telling me how she was really tired because she stayed over at her boyfriend's house. So, I knew she still had a boyfriend, but she still wants to go get food together, its cool, whatever ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
And then we got at Subway and she chose a seat by the window where it those ones facing at each other that couple and stuff eat at rather than the ones around with long seats where you eat with your buddies. Nothing really happened, we just ate and had a nice time as per usual, but I don't really know what to do.
Some questions that come to mind,
Am I a bad person? I kinda feel like I'm doing things with her that I shouldn't be doing since she has a boyfriend.
Should I try avoiding her? I don't feel like I need to since we're good friends but I don't want any problems between her and her boyfriend.
Does she even have a boyfriend at all? She's only mentioned him like twice over the time ive known her.
Maybe she's saying that so I don't try get feelings for her?
I'm really not sure what to think of it.
I mean, im happy with how things are.
She's a good friend to me and I enjoy spending time with her,
But idk, its just very very strange to me.
Please tell me what you think and maybe answer some questions and lemme know what you'd do

[GokuSan371]

Okay, listen here.
My opinion here is following: She doesn't haves any boyfriend. Check her facebook or any other social media, is there a relationship. Seriously, if she would really had a boyfriend, I guess she wouldn't be in contact with you so easy. But again... I don't understand, why she would lie about boyfriend? If she doesn't wants to have a relationship with you or something, you would be just in friendzone and she would just normally lie when it would go about "relationship" with you. Like, I'm not ready etc.

--- You have really fkng strange situation... Just ask her, why she didn't told you about boyfriend. Speaking is the best way how to solve this problem, because there can be any answer to your question...

[Xiolest]

She can have a boyfriend and can be close friends with you. You're overthinking tbh, has she tried making any moves? Like touch anywhere else except comparing hand sizes?
Otherwise as I see it is you're hanging out as friends and there's nothing wrong with that. Ask to meet her boyfriend one day if you're really curious about him, or ask if he knows about you. Just incase.

Honestly if you're very uncomfortable about it all just be straight up with her and say you don't want her boyfriend to be getting jealous of you even though you guys are just friends.

[Callie]

Okay, listen here.
My opinion here is following: She doesn't haves any boyfriend. Check her facebook or any other social media, is there a relationship. Seriously, if she would really had a boyfriend, I guess she wouldn't be in contact with you so easy. But again... I don't understand, why she would lie about boyfriend? If she doesn't wants to have a relationship with you or something, you would be just in friendzone and she would just normally lie when it would go about "relationship" with you. Like, I'm not ready etc.

--- You have really fkng strange situation... Just ask her, why she didn't told you about boyfriend. Speaking is the best way how to solve this problem, because there can be any answer to your question...

I mean like, its not so much a problem, I can live without knowing but it just got me very curious.

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She can have a boyfriend and can be close friends with you. You're overthinking tbh, has she tried making any moves? Like touch anywhere else except comparing hand sizes?
Otherwise as I see it is you're hanging out as friends and there's nothing wrong with that. Ask to meet her boyfriend one day if you're really curious about him, or ask if he knows about you. Just incase.

Honestly if you're very uncomfortable about it all just be straight up with her and say you don't want her boyfriend to be getting jealous of you even though you guys are just friends.

I might be over thinking it.
And no she hasn't tried to make any other moves.
My last relationship was, abusive to say the least.
So I don't really know whats right and wrong, acceptable and not acceptable in relationship.
But thanks for your input

[GokuSan371]

I mean like, its not so much a problem, I can live without knowing but it just got me very curious.

Well if you're just curious, just ignore this fact.

[Draganoid]

Your clearly overthinking. She probably mentions she has a bf so much because she does not want you to think you can be more than that.
Hanging out with her and talking is fine, but if it starts to cause problems in their relationship you may want to reconsider your stance.
If you feel like this is a major problem you can talk to her about it and explain, and get her input on it.

[Callie]

Your clearly overthinking. She probably mentions she has a bf so much because she does not want you to think you can be more than that.
Hanging out with her and talking is fine, but if it starts to cause problems in their relationship you may want to reconsider your stance.
If you feel like this is a major problem you can talk to her about it and explain, and get her input on it.

She rarely mentions her boyfriend, that's one of the things that confuses me.
But yeah, im most likely just over thinking

[[MPGH]Mayion]

I don't get the problem nowadays with having friendship with the other sex? If I spend most of my time with my friend that doesn't mean I want to fuck him or take him on dates, we are just friends. Same thing with girls.

Same applies to friendzone, just another word for hopeless males who are just in it for the sex and nothing else. What's wrong with being friends with somebody even if they are in a relationship, those two are not related whatsoever.

[Callie]

I don't get the problem nowadays with having friendship with the other sex? If I spend most of my time with my friend that doesn't mean I want to fuck him or take him on dates, we are just friends. Same thing with girls.

Same applies to friendzone, just another word for hopeless males who are just in it for the sex and nothing else. What's wrong with being friends with somebody even if they are in a relationship, those two are not related whatsoever.

The issue isn't being friends with her, its how far you're allowed to push it as being friends.
But I get and agree with what you're saying

[niggo]

Am I a bad person? I kinda feel like I'm doing things with her that I shouldn't be doing since she has a boyfriend.
Should I try avoiding her? I don't feel like I need to since we're good friends but I don't want any problems between her and her boyfriend.
Does she even have a boyfriend at all? She's only mentioned him like twice over the time ive known her.
Maybe she's saying that so I don't try get feelings for her?

if youre having fun in a non sexual way then why break contact? youre not doing anything to hurt the relationship between her and her bf

def stay in contact if you are having fun when talking to her

[[MPGH]Mayion]

The issue isn't being friends with her, its how far you're allowed to push it as being friends.
But I get and agree with what you're saying

Only break contact if you feel it's affecting her relationship, out of respect if anything.
But by what you are saying, she is not really into her boyfriend that much to begin with, so just do you and stay with the flow.

[HEV702]

Seems to me you guys are just close friends.

[Gaydow]

Hi everyone,
I'd like to hear what you think about the situation and what I should do.
Ill give you some back story though,
I met this girl in one of my classes back in last September, im still in the same class as her and we are together for around 4 hours a week.
She's super kind and nice to me and we sit next to each other and stuff and its all great.
She invited me to her house party last October, it was my first party ever and it was super cool and I really enjoyed it.
I was her like #1 on snapchat for I think two months? But then she told me she had a boyfriend.
I didn't try to make any moves in the first place so it was all fine I wasn't too bothered, but I did feel bad for her supposed boyfriend.
Considering I was her #1 most contacted snapchat friend for like two months lol and she literally never spoke about him.

ANYWAYS, whats happening now.
Everythings good still, great friends and we laugh and shit etc as per usual.
However, she is VERY comfortable around me. Like, there has been a few occasions where she's told me to put my hand on hers, but not in a romantic way, but because of the topic like comparing hand sizes since I have massive hands and shit.
I stopped messaging her entirely on snapchat since like december because I didn't wanna cause problems with her boyfriend, but we still occasionally talk on text messges.
But something stuck out for me today.
She was telling me how she went subway for the first time a few weeks ago and I was telling her how I really wanted one and shit and she said we'd go after class, so of course I did. We were talking and just laughing and shit as per and she was telling me how she was really tired because she stayed over at her boyfriend's house. So, I knew she still had a boyfriend, but she still wants to go get food together, its cool, whatever ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
And then we got at Subway and she chose a seat by the window where it those ones facing at each other that couple and stuff eat at rather than the ones around with long seats where you eat with your buddies. Nothing really happened, we just ate and had a nice time as per usual, but I don't really know what to do.
Some questions that come to mind,
Am I a bad person? I kinda feel like I'm doing things with her that I shouldn't be doing since she has a boyfriend.
Should I try avoiding her? I don't feel like I need to since we're good friends but I don't want any problems between her and her boyfriend.
Does she even have a boyfriend at all? She's only mentioned him like twice over the time ive known her.
Maybe she's saying that so I don't try get feelings for her?
I'm really not sure what to think of it.
I mean, im happy with how things are.
She's a good friend to me and I enjoy spending time with her,
But idk, its just very very strange to me.
Please tell me what you think and maybe answer some questions and lemme know what you'd do

because she stayed over at her boyfriend's house

Lol bro stop already, she's fucking playing games with you. From someone who's been in that situation, do what I did, pick your shit up and move on.

[Sean]

Please tell me what you think and maybe answer some questions and lemme know what you'd do

Just stick to your waifu she won't let you down

[Glitch]

I say stay loyal to your left or right hand