I need help, I don't know what to do with this girl
Hi everyone,
I'd like to hear what you think about the situation and what I should do.
Ill give you some back story though,
I met this girl in one of my classes back in last September, im still in the same class as her and we are together for around 4 hours a week.
She's super kind and nice to me and we sit next to each other and stuff and its all great.
She invited me to her house party last October, it was my first party ever and it was super cool and I really enjoyed it.
I was her like #1 on snapchat for I think two months? But then she told me she had a boyfriend.
I didn't try to make any moves in the first place so it was all fine I wasn't too bothered, but I did feel bad for her supposed boyfriend.
Considering I was her #1 most contacted snapchat friend for like two months lol and she literally never spoke about him.
ANYWAYS, whats happening now.
Everythings good still, great friends and we laugh and shit etc as per usual.
However, she is VERY comfortable around me. Like, there has been a few occasions where she's told me to put my hand on hers, but not in a romantic way, but because of the topic like comparing hand sizes since I have massive hands and shit.
I stopped messaging her entirely on snapchat since like december because I didn't wanna cause problems with her boyfriend, but we still occasionally talk on text messges.
But something stuck out for me today.
She was telling me how she went subway for the first time a few weeks ago and I was telling her how I really wanted one and shit and she said we'd go after class, so of course I did. We were talking and just laughing and shit as per and she was telling me how she was really tired because she stayed over at her boyfriend's house. So, I knew she still had a boyfriend, but she still wants to go get food together, its cool, whatever ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
And then we got at Subway and she chose a seat by the window where it those ones facing at each other that couple and stuff eat at rather than the ones around with long seats where you eat with your buddies. Nothing really happened, we just ate and had a nice time as per usual, but I don't really know what to do.
Some questions that come to mind,
Am I a bad person? I kinda feel like I'm doing things with her that I shouldn't be doing since she has a boyfriend.
Should I try avoiding her? I don't feel like I need to since we're good friends but I don't want any problems between her and her boyfriend.
Does she even have a boyfriend at all? She's only mentioned him like twice over the time ive known her.
Maybe she's saying that so I don't try get feelings for her?
I'm really not sure what to think of it.
I mean, im happy with how things are.
She's a good friend to me and I enjoy spending time with her,
But idk, its just very very strange to me.
Please tell me what you think and maybe answer some questions and lemme know what you'd do
I'd like to hear what you think about the situation and what I should do.
Ill give you some back story though,
I met this girl in one of my classes back in last September, im still in the same class as her and we are together for around 4 hours a week.
She's super kind and nice to me and we sit next to each other and stuff and its all great.
She invited me to her house party last October, it was my first party ever and it was super cool and I really enjoyed it.
I was her like #1 on snapchat for I think two months? But then she told me she had a boyfriend.
I didn't try to make any moves in the first place so it was all fine I wasn't too bothered, but I did feel bad for her supposed boyfriend.
Considering I was her #1 most contacted snapchat friend for like two months lol and she literally never spoke about him.
ANYWAYS, whats happening now.
Everythings good still, great friends and we laugh and shit etc as per usual.
However, she is VERY comfortable around me. Like, there has been a few occasions where she's told me to put my hand on hers, but not in a romantic way, but because of the topic like comparing hand sizes since I have massive hands and shit.
I stopped messaging her entirely on snapchat since like december because I didn't wanna cause problems with her boyfriend, but we still occasionally talk on text messges.
But something stuck out for me today.
She was telling me how she went subway for the first time a few weeks ago and I was telling her how I really wanted one and shit and she said we'd go after class, so of course I did. We were talking and just laughing and shit as per and she was telling me how she was really tired because she stayed over at her boyfriend's house. So, I knew she still had a boyfriend, but she still wants to go get food together, its cool, whatever ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
And then we got at Subway and she chose a seat by the window where it those ones facing at each other that couple and stuff eat at rather than the ones around with long seats where you eat with your buddies. Nothing really happened, we just ate and had a nice time as per usual, but I don't really know what to do.
Some questions that come to mind,
Am I a bad person? I kinda feel like I'm doing things with her that I shouldn't be doing since she has a boyfriend.
Should I try avoiding her? I don't feel like I need to since we're good friends but I don't want any problems between her and her boyfriend.
Does she even have a boyfriend at all? She's only mentioned him like twice over the time ive known her.
Maybe she's saying that so I don't try get feelings for her?
I'm really not sure what to think of it.
I mean, im happy with how things are.
She's a good friend to me and I enjoy spending time with her,
But idk, its just very very strange to me.
Please tell me what you think and maybe answer some questions and lemme know what you'd do
Originally Posted by GokuSan371
