SRSZSo my girlfriend needs some space

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So my girlfriend needs some space

And that happened twice this month already. She just doesn't want to see me or talk to me. She even goes to sleep on a couch in our living room. I am really getting stressed about the whole situation cause I can't find a thing to think about. Everything is great between us usually and then this comes out of the blue. I tried talking to her but she won't say a word. Then, after a couple of days, everything comes back to normal.

I'm desperate for opinions/thoughts on this.

she's probably cheating on you

Is it her period? (Sorry to be that guy but its the first thing that came to mind. It makes sense to go through mood swings during that time so its not like if I'm being misogynistic here)

Originally Posted by Rudol Von Stroheim

Is it her period? (Sorry to be that guy but its the first thing that came to mind. It makes sense to go through mood swings during that time so its not like if I'm being misogynistic here)

Nah, I wouldn't be questioning at all if it'd occur during her period.

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Originally Posted by Shadow

she's probably cheating on you

Originally Posted by Insomniac

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If thats the case, I guess I'll need to wait until we reach the dead end, since I'm not a kind of guy to be sneaking/camping on her phone and she would feel too guilty to tell me, if it actually happened.
Sucks man.

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@Nazmark I highly doubt she is cheating on you. It would be super suspicious on purpose if she started to act super weird, one of the reasons people may cheat is the thrill of it. I bet it’s something embarrassing, and she didn’t want you to see/find out or maybe it’s something you do, that is embarrassing to talk about. I would give her some space but also tell her , no matter what it is, I’ll always be there to talk you and support you, even if I may not understand it. You can talk to me about anything, even if it’s something I do. don’t say it, if you don’t mean it. Just tell her once. Don’t keep pushing on this idea. If she still doesn’t talk about it after 2 weeks, then you have to tell her what you told us. What you told us is a perfect thing to say to her. No accusation, no negativity shone on her. Sometimes you have to put her feelings ahead of yours. Swallow you feelings, for her. But remember , relationships are about equality. The 2 weeks is you letting her come out of her shell and tell you herself. If she hasn’t talked you about the issue, you should express your feelings too, because you are equal.

Even though everyone seems to always jump to the most negative thing (aka cheating), you should never do that in a relationship. I say relationship, not dating (dating rules are different). Otherwise it’s not a trusting relationship. If there is no trust, you shouldn’t be together. Imo girls want a confident, knows what they want, softie. Someone who cares about them deeply but has a hard outter, “bad boy” shell. Meaning she is the only one to see your sensitive side. Makes them feel more special.

Also sounds like you are the type of guy who trusts her.

Originally Posted by Allura

@Nazmark I highly doubt she is cheating on you. It would be super suspicious on purpose if she started to act super weird, one of the reasons people may cheat is the thrill of it. I bet it’s something embarrassing, and she didn’t want you to see/find out or maybe it’s something you do, that is embarrassing to talk about. I would give her some space but also tell her , no matter what it is, I’ll always be there to talk you and support you, even if I may not understand it. You can talk to me about anything, even if it’s something I do. don’t say it, if you don’t mean it. Just tell her once. Don’t keep pushing on this idea. If she still doesn’t talk about it after 2 weeks, then you have to tell her what you told us. What you told us is a perfect thing to say to her. No accusation, no negativity shone on her. Sometimes you have to put her feelings ahead of yours. Swallow you feelings, for her. But remember , relationships are about equality. The 2 weeks is you letting her come out of her shell and tell you herself. If she hasn’t talked you about the issue, you should express your feelings too, because you are equal.

Even though everyone seems to always jump to the most negative thing (aka cheating), you should never do that in a relationship. Otherwise it’s not a trusting relationship. If there is no trust, you shouldn’t be together. Imo girls want a confident, knows what they want, softie. Someone who cares about them deeply but has a hard outter, “bad boy” shell. Meaning she is the only one to see your sensitive side. Makes them feel more special.

Also sounds like you are the type of guy who trusts her.

This is a good idea, and women like to be re-ensured so anything to help that case would be great

just act like you done with her too, when she sees that your not a desperate dog constantly wanting her attention she's gonna want yours.
duh

She fucking cheating on your ass.

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Congrats on becoming a cucklord.

Dont be surprised when she says she's inlove with Brad.

Ask her what is going on; shes obviously upset about something. If she can't communicate, she ain't worth dealing with. My two cents.

Originally Posted by Dave84311

Ask her what is going on; shes obviously upset about something. If she can't communicate, she ain't worth dealing with. My two cents.

Some girls actually have real trouble communicating, they just go into shutdown mode.
It's so autistic, I try to stay away from that shit.

Originally Posted by Dave84311

Ask her what is going on; shes obviously upset about something. If she can't communicate, she ain't worth dealing with. My two cents.

Was going to say that. If she is unable to be open with you, then I highly doubt she is the kind of person for you to trust and lean on.
A successful relationship is built on communication, especially if you two are living together. Even though I assume the problem is too hard for her to handle alone, make sure to let her know that this kind of behavior is childish and bothersome. Breaks aren't a good thing either, so I suggest you have an open conversation with her to either find the truth and solution, or end it all. Good luck.

I've actually dealt with something like this myself and I know how you feel man it fucking sucks. Ask her about it when she's in one of her 'good' moods maybe? This might be a bit extreme but could also possibly be a sign of some mental illness such a bipolar? How it all works out my man